'Bachelor' recap: Colton gets serious about sexual assault during chat with Caelynn

Colton Underwood has plenty of boring chats, but one moving and authentic one, in this week's "Bachelor."

Here's something I never thought I'd say: Colton Underwood had a powerful conversation on "The Bachelor."

The guy has a tendency to repeat the same adjective twice in one breath. ("You guys look amazing; Singapore's been amazing."). And, like many Bachelors before, his chats with the ladies tend to be about assessing how comfortable he is with them, and how great the date activity is. But this week, Colton also had something real: A meaningful conversation with Caelynn (a Miss USA runner-up, clearly a frontrunner here) about sexual assault. 

After the two go on a shopping date – they're all in Singapore, "A 'Bachelor' first," says host Chris Harrison – where Colton (ABC?) buys her dresses with feathers and fringe, Caelynn opens up about her assault story. 

Things get real

"This is a conversation that I have to have," Caelynn says. "Four years ago, I was a sophomore in college (and I was) sexually assaulted." She gives details about what men did to her while she was incapacitated, how she had to go to two hospitals for a rape kit, how she waited to tell her mother and how, for a long time, a gentle touch on the shoulder would trigger her. It's a moving moment, even for a reality-TV cynic.

Colton looks concerned, loving and open. He says, "I want you to know, with me you're safe." He references a past girlfriend, perhaps gymnast Aly Raisman (who has sued the USOC over her sexual abuse by Larry Nassar): "I have had a situation in my past where I was in a relationship in which she was sexually abused." He wipes an invisible tear, but it still feels real. "For me, that was the hardest thing I ever had to watch. ... Going through something with someone. Looking in their eyes and knowing the pain associated with it, (but) who am I to feel the pain because I wasn't the victim?"

He goes on to imply that intimacy issues with his "first love" have something to do with his decision to remain a virgin. "Everyone asks me why (I'm a virgin). They want a reason. And my reason is complicated."

She doesn't press him for explanation, but the two kiss. ABC then shows a RAINN PSA and a number to call if you or someone else has experienced sexual assault. 

Then the episode is catty again

Once the 10 minutes of authenticity are done, it's back to your previously scheduled dating show. Which is to say there's a predictable spat between someone upset she doesn't have enough alone time with Colton (Courtney, who thinks she's wiser than her 23 years) versus someone else who goes back for seconds with him (Demi, who later calls Courtney the "cancer of the house").

There's also the cliched clash between two former friends (Caelynn and Hannah B., who both competed in Miss USA) who don't like each other. Though here's a twist: They kind of resolve things. OK? Also: Harrison flubs Hannah's name. Oops.

A look at the crazy dates

And, of course, there are unbelievable dates. Tayshia and Colton go bungee jumping. They are scared, they are happy to have each other, there is plenty of ominous music, they look down a lot, they do the jump, they congratulate each other and have a makeout session in the ocean. Tayshia reveals that she was married. More dramatic music. Colton says his parents are divorced. He doesn't judge. They share a kiss on the Singapore Flyer. She gets a rose.

Colton goes on a group date on the streets of Singapore, where he and the gals see a fortune teller, get treatment from a leech lady and eat a bunch of food. The women show Colton how adventurous they are by eating fish eyes, bullfrogs and pig feet. Of note, Demi jumps on Colton whenever possible. Later she reveals that her mom spent time in federal prison. "She might be really messed up, but that woman loves me so much (and) I love her unconditionally," she says wiping a place that could have a tear. Colton says it "takes a special person" to be so supportive of family. They kiss and she gets a rose.

I already mentioned the Caelynn shopping date. They went to Singaporean boutiques and then had a romantic dinner. She gets a rose.

Who was sent home?

It's time to bid adieu to "calm and concise" Courtney (that's how she describes herself) and 31-year-old Tracy, whose age is only notable because almost everyone left is 23. Her stanky-face reaction shots will be missed.

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